I am somehow compelled to put my fingers on the keyboard. The reason behind is a shocking one– the news of a suicide. Very recently, I am continuously hearing the news of suicides of ‘young boys and girls’ around us. To some extent, the news is really hard to forget. Rather, it hurts deep inside the heart…
I heard 4 suicide news for last few days. All of them are between 15 to 25 years of age. See! normally we consider this age as the sweetest time of anybody’s life. But what TOO HARD causes made their lives UNBEARABLE? This is really a tough thing to find out. Let me discuss about few case studies. I won’t state the real names. I will tell few incidents that I heard in my real life and from newspapers.
Two of the deaths were most probably for failing in the love affairs. Arefin had a relation with Sofia, but lately Sofia refuses to continue it due to some ’causes’. Arefin found him Cheated and his life became ‘meaningless’, therefore committed suicide.
Rafi and Lisa had relations of several years. But the guardians of Lisa decided to marry her with Arif who is a little more established in the society. In such a condition, the girl Lisa found her life ‘worst’ because she thought she lost everything in her life. She gave everything to Rafi. As she couldn’t live with Rafi rest of her life, she committed suicide.
Maria is a pretty and a talented girl. She did excellent in all the exams she appeared in her life. She admitted in the reputed university of the country. Undoubtedly, she is a good girl. Suddenly, her parents found that she was building a good ‘relation’ with one of her classmate. So it was a real headache for the parents, they took her and arranged a marriage with a boy who is 10 years older than her. Life was going good! Suddenly, Maria is found to be hanging in the ceiling of her room while her husband was abroad. End of a story! Maria had no match with his husband Arif being 10 years younger. She couldn’t manage the age gap, couldn’t share her pleasures and sorrows. The mental pressure caused her vulnerable life to death!
Let me point to few things. In all the cases, there are matters like:
I found few things in common. With time, the media around us, are provoking us to feel that being ”alone” without a boyfriend or girlfriend is not the smartness. As the environment all around turns to such, generally the growing up boys and girls ”makes” relations. When we see an advertisement of a motorbike, we see it makes you ”cool” if you have a good motorbike. If we go to see an advertisement of ”lotion”, it proves that using that lotion, the girls will be lush and attractive to the boys.
Whatever is the reality is, when a growing up child sees these sort of advertisements all over, the goes to schools and colleges and found that a girl has to be hot if she need a boyfriend, the boy should be cool if she need to manage a girlfriend…bla bla..
Firstly, in these days, the pre-marital physical relations is being common in our societies of Bangladesh. In most of the cases there comes a calamity named ”Break-Up”. If the boy or the girl can’t accept the thing, he/she hangs him/her up and that’s the end of life!
Secondly, If the girl is strong, the boy is freak in her LOVE (so called), he never leave ”hopes” to get her back. So, he plans to put her in trouble. If he/she could have ever managed videos of their intimate moments. It comes on air. Now another play is staged. The girl can’t ”accept” the life to be so humiliated. She hangs her up. End of the life!
Thirdly, both the boy and girl are in promise and their understanding is good. But there comes another thing — parents. Their social status, expectations don’t match with ‘that’ boy/’girl. They put pressure on their son/daughter. There comes a marriage where both the bride and the groom hasn’t understandings among them. And later, break up comes in a role play. And many more incidents.
Fourthly, boys and girls having no relations are bound to marry the chosen one by their parents. In many cases, their opinions are ”not-welcomed”. The age gap comes a problem in a new life. ”Expectations” comes to a problem. So, again many of us can’t accept and there are incidents of ”Quitting” the life.
I believe there is nothing to quit. DONT QUIT, DO IT. If it is a problem, you need to face it. There is far better option than to quit. When you quit the world, you are not spared by anything, even you don’t have the respect! There are newspapers… everyone comes to know what happened to your life. So, it’s better to share the problems with others. Life is a gift. Life is something which never comes back once gone. Life is all about struggling, but the pleasures comes on the way.
Be sincere while you make a relation. Be cautious when you do something serious to your life. If there is possibility that it will return you back something, don’t step further.
Anything is healed except the life is gone. People never remember what happened to whom. All is to care is never to be freak out with complications of life. Wait, see, share it with others and solve it.
NOTHING IS A BIG LOSS. ANYTHING IS HEALED OTHER THAN DEATH
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