I think I should share an experience of my life. This might make you to feel something.
The other day, I was walking down the street near my home. Suddenly I heard a lady’s voice,
— “I don’t know how would you manage your stupid child, but I am exhausted. She mistook ‘ three make sentences and meanings’ that I practiced her! I will make her straight with my sticks today…”.
I looked back and saw her… the lady was returning home with her husband and the child (called stupid by her mom) from a coaching center for the admission of class 1. 😯 The coaching center is near my home on that street. I was embarrassed with the words of ‘Mom’ to her child…
I was even more shocked while heard the Dad to say,
— “Hmm… you are right. she is not concentrating in studies and her attention is more in playing. I will see her today…. Lets go first….”
I couldn’t believe my ears! Do the conversation is regarding a kid of 5 years!! 😦
I stared at the kid. She had spectacles … gloomy face… clearly in trap with the hard handling of her parents and surely repented for her “big faults” of mistaking ‘3 word meanings’ 🙄
Is has been a common scenario in our country. In Bangladesh, there are many many newly rich families who have enough money and they need their child to admit in renowned schools for their social status! This desire of admitting their child to renowned famous schools are inspired to maintain the ‘status’ in their society… 🙄
Unfortunately, the population is so huge and there are very few renowned and famous schools. For admission in class 1, and these schools don’t admit student up to class 10! This things make the competition more hectic!
So far I could remember, last year for each seat, 25 girl kids competed in admission of ‘Viqarunnisa Noon School’. Same things happen to “Ideal School and College”, “Saint Joseph Schools”, “Government Laboratory Schools” and few more!
Don’t know why ‘RACE of social status’ is affecting innocent young kids life…. don’t know when it would be stopped.. I feel pity because the scenario I told above is not only an incidents… this is a common scenario almost in each families…
There goes a Hindi proverb:
पढ़ोगे लिखोगे बनोगे नवाब
खेलोगे कूदोगे होगे ख़राब
Studies will make your life, sports will mar it
A Bangla quote says –
লেখাপড়া করে যে
গাড়ি ঘোড়া চড়ে সে
One who studies rides cars and horse i.e. becomes rich.
An English proverb says –
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
This things clearly makes the opinions of western and our outlooks. Our kids are our next generation. We are to make them lively, intelligent, spontaneous in their creativity. There is no option for such pressures that would hinder their growth of thinking…
Sitting all day with books and being slapped by the parents could only make a child more inactive and dull. Few days back, national television was telecasting an advertisement SAY “YES” TO YOUR CHILD. I have my niece of 6 years. Once day she started requesting me for a chips and I told her,” Not today Mom, I shall give you tomorrow or any other day..”
She replied me,“Chachu (uncle), don’t you see television huh! You should tell “Yes” to kids. I am kid. so why are you telling me ‘No’?” 😯
I became so glad seeing her intelligence of requesting to uncle for a chips in place of crying or something like that… I kissed her and brought some special chips and chocolates that day…
Intelligence is a development. It can never be brought with pressure. All we are in family, never told to sit for studies by our parents. But we all have passed from very well-known schools and universities of our country. I can now understand that it is happened as my parents always taught us what to do… Somehow, the rest part was done by us…
God know, I believe in this thing and it’s a true-handling for the children. But sometimes I fear– what is waiting to and from our future generation? 😯 I feel pain whenever I think of it…. A deep sigh comes out from me! 😦
Credit: This post is inspired by the Raising Kids or Warriors of my blogging guru Reema.